1996-2017 Copyright Inspire Kindness, LLC. ALL RIGHTS RESERVED
I read of a man who stood to speak
at the funeral of a friend.
He referred to the dates on the tombstone
from the beginning…to the end.
He noted that first came the date of birth
and spoke of the following date with tears,
but he said what mattered most of all
was the dash between those years.
For that dash represents all the time
that they spent alive on earth.
And now only those who loved them
know what that little line is worth.
For it matters not, how much we own,
the cars…the house…the cash.
What matters is how we live and love
and how we spend our dash.
So, think about this long and hard.
Are there things you’d like to change?
For you never know how much time is left
that can still be rearranged.
If we could just slow down enough
to consider what’s true and real
and always try to understand
the way other people feel.
And be less quick to anger
and show appreciation more
and love the people in our lives
like we’ve never loved before.
If we treat each other with respect
and more often wear a smile,
remembering that this special dash
might only last a little while.
So, when your eulogy is being read,
with your life’s actions to rehash…
would you be proud of the things they say
about how you spent YOUR dash?
Copyright Inspire Kindness, LLC 1996.
All rights reserved
Author of The Dash
While it still amazes me, a simple poem I wrote one afternoon in 1996 forever changed my life. It all began when I faxed a copy of this poem to a syndicated radio show in Atlanta. The host of this popular show read it on the air. Little did I know how much my life would change from that day forward. Thirty-six lines that have touched millions! Titled simply — The Dash — these 36 lines have literally taken on a life of their own by traveling all over the world. I call it uncomplicated poetry in a complicated world, which became a slogan to describe my inspirational writings and my company, Linda’s Lyrics. People are always asking me what, in particular, inspired me to write this poem. I believe it was a combination of things in my life at the time. It was during a period when I was working for the top executives of a very large and successful corporation. It was a strict company with a tense working environment. I began to notice how the priorities in many lives there had become, what I considered, misaligned. It seemed to me there were far too many worrying more about making a living, than making a life. Also, resonating in the back of my mind were the words from a letter which had been previously routed around the office. It had been written by the wife of an employee who was aware that she was dying. I was so moved by that letter that I saved a copy of it and continue to live by her words: “Regrets? I have a few. Too much worrying about finding the right husband and having children, being on time, being late and so on. It didn’t matter. It all works out and it would have worked out without the worries and the tears. If I would have known then what I know now. But I did and so do you. We’re all going to die. Stop worrying and start loving and living." Her words stuck with me. Her letter made me stop and think. This is it. This is all we get. I remember where I was when I first truly realized the significance of the piece that I had written. I was on a business trip in Minnesota, alone in a hotel room. I received an emotional email thanking me for sharing the message of The Dash from a student who had recently heard it as part of a memorial gathering for the Columbine High School students. I sat on the bed and cried. Several years later, I found myself engulfed in the thoughts and feelings created by my own words as I listened to them read aloud, for what seemed like the very first time, at the funeral of my father … my best friend. I wrote this closing exactly one year from that day and never had the words of the poem meant more to me. The Dash has truly affected millions. I may not be able to change the world with these words, but I have certainly been able to influence a portion of it. The poem’s words have convinced mothers to spend more time with their children, fathers to spend more time at home, and reunited long-lost loved ones. The words have changed attitudes, and changed the direction of lives. They have, in their own way, made a difference. I know writing The Dash has changed my life. I hope reading it in some way, may change yours.